Friday, 27 June 2014

The Slap

Hi guys! I hope you are all well! Today I am writing up my first opinion piece in ages. I do love writing these type of posts up, I love to get my own opinion out there, these posts are usually well received by those that read them, and I love to get others two cents on the issue. This is an issue I have never felt particularly compelled to write about, before an incident I faced happened. Though this has always bothered me, seeing it happen to women and girl friends of my very own. Yet, on the flip side, this issue has also affected my male friends. Both men and women are affected by the issue, it depends on what side and perspective you identify with most. This post will touch on sexual harassment and women on men violence. The incident which I will talk about shortly, ties both issues together, and I haven't been able to stop thinking about both. 
First, let us compare two very similar and highly publicised incidents. In 2009, Chris Brown (Who I despise with all my heart) beats his girlfriend Rihanna to a bloody pulp. For a short while, his career hits rock bottom and is bombarded with insults, threats, ridicule, and to this day, people will never let him forget what he did, as well it shouldn't be forgotten. However, just mere weeks ago, caught on elevator CCTV, Solange Knowles, Beyonce's little sister is seen slapping, and beating her brother in law, Jay-Z. The Internet response, in my opinion, was ridiculous. Jokes were made at Jay-Z's expense, some patted Solange on the back for ''standing up for Beyonce'', when some rumours came out (at the same time the incident happened, suspicious, like the rumours were made up, to excuse her actions), and the incident has easily been laughed off and forgotten. 
I am so against women on men violence as much as I am against it vice versa. I can be just as harrowing and hurtful if it were the other way around. Also added into the mix, is the feeling that men can't hit women back, the humiliation factor and they may feel that if they were to talk about it, some people could take the piss out of them. Gender doesn't equal strength. It should be seen as completely unacceptable in both situations. 
However, lately, I have been feeling conflicted in my beliefs and they have entered a grey area. Last Friday night, I was out in the local nightclub, and it was a fantastic night, everyone I loved was there. However, an incident occurred at the end of the night that had me absolutely seething. My friend and I were leaving the nightclub and as we were walking down the stairs, we were called by some strange guys we had never met. We ignored them. As we got past them, one of them decides it would be a great idea to give me a slap on the ass. Without thinking, I turned around and punched the guy that slapped me and sent him backwards, nearly taking his two friends with him in the process. It was like a reflex, I didn't think about it, I just did it. Don't think it was brought about by alcohol. I only had one drink the entire night because I was too broke. However, had my friend not pulled me back, the fight could have taken a dangerous turn The steps in the club are not the safest, and I was in high heels. 
I am still 100% against women on men violence, for the sake of violence. But I wonder, does any such line to be crossed or any sort of situation exist where it becomes okay to strike out? If so, should gender come into the equation? We are all equal. If a hand was laid on me, is it justice to lay a hand back on them? An eye for an eye?
Looking back, if the incident happened again, and I thought what I was going to do through, I would still retaliate in the way I did. I believe that you should only strike someone on defence. I believe I was defending myself. I have noticed lately with women on a night out, that sexual harassment of women perpetrated by, and I can't stress this enough, SOME men, seems to be on the rise.
 Most women are used to the perverse comments and suggestions, unsolicited touching and catcalls. It can leave you feeling violated, dirty, embarrassed, and, for lack of  better word, shite. It's not a compliment or an ego boost in any way. I don't know why *some* men feel it's okay to put their hands on you so easily and without your consent.

It's the sense of entitlement that gets me. I wish I could say that that was the first encounter I've had, and if it was, I may have reacted differently. However, most nights out, I have had some unwanted attention and I have been able to keep my cool and get myself out of the situation without much hassle. This incident though, was so bold and out there, the anger and annoyance from other times sort of culminated into one outburst.
I fully believe that women on men violence has never been taken as seriously as men on women violence. Unfortunately, I don't see that changing anytime in the near future. If a woman hits a man, she may be seen as the one in control, powerful and know how to look after herself, and it seems easier for a woman to hit a man. If a man hits a woman, he is awful, a bully, a coward, and not a man at all. From the men I have discussed the issue with, they will not, under any circumstances, hit a woman, but he will, restrain her untill she stops and calms down. As someone who doesn't place importance of one sex over the other, this is a perfectly reasonable way to react, whether they be male or female.
I am nearing the end of my post and I feel that this post is slightly all over the place and contradictory in some parts. This is because my beliefs are also all over the place with these issues at the moment, and they have entered a messy grey area. So, if you made it to the end of this post, kudos! I would really love to hear your own opinion on the issues I discussed on this post. So let me know below.
Thank you all so much for reading, and stay safe.
Stay fab xo
Kim. :)

Tuesday, 24 June 2014

Lush Seanik Shampoo bar!

Hi guys, happy Tuesday! I hope you are all doing well! If you read my last post, you'll know I was in Dublin and bought quite a bit to review on my blog, and I thought I would start with one of my favourites- Lush's Seanik shampoo bar. 

This is a repurchase of mine and I love it so much, it's one of my favourite things to buy in Lush. They are so fantastic for your hair. Since using Lush's shampoo bars, I hate using normal shampoos from the chemists. Once you go shampoo bar, you don't go back. The Seanik shampoo smells gorgeous and fresh- without that chemical smell normal shampoos can have. The main scents are: lemon, moss, jasmine and sea salt. The main ingredients in the Seanik shampoo bar are: lemon for shine, Irish moss which softens, Japanese nori that softens the tips and the roots of your hair, sea salt for body and volume and mimosa and jasmine oils for fragrance. 
I bought this shampoo bar mainly for shine, health and hair growth. I found the Seanik shampoo bar to be highly beneficial for my hair. The lemon has made my hair quite shiny, and the great ingredients and lack of chemicals has made my hair feel extra clean and fresh. Overall, my hair feels more lightweight. I have noticed hair growth and my hair has become noticeably healthier and softer. I love that I feel when using Seanik, that I am not washing my hair with a cocktail of chemicals. As it is a solid bar, it is perfect for travel. It's also very eco friendly, the bar lasts as long as three large shampoo bars- without the plastic packaging. 
To use it, I wet my hair and rub the shampoo bar a few times up and down and work it into a lather, then wash it out and follow up with a conditioner. I dry it and store it in a cool, dry place in the paper bag the shampoo bar came in. I would repurchase this again and again and I highly recommend it! It costs an incredibly reasonable €7.90 and I give it a well deserved 10/10!

Have you guys ever used Lush's shampoo bars? Let me know what you think below!
Thank you for reading,
Stay fab xo
Kim. :)

Thursday, 19 June 2014

Quick update!

Hi guys! I hope you are all well! I didn't mean to disappear for two weeks. However I have been quite busy lately with real life. *sigh* I have pretty much given up on my laptop, which has really restricted my blogging opportunities. Which I hate, as I love blogging so much. Alas, I struggle on.
I thought I would write up a quick update and let you all know what I have been up to! I have become addicted to Instagram and I post there quite regularly, so check me out there at: if you want. :)

I have booked my hostel stay and ticket for me trip to Paris, I am so excited! It is my first trip solo and I cannot wait to get going. I am going from the 3rd to the 9th of September, so be on the lookout for a blog or two regarding that. ;)

On Sunday, I went to the beautiful Emo Court Laois near me. It's is such a stunning place and great for a slow paced Sunday walk, which I loved. We brought our dog and went for tea in the tea room. Whilst all the other dogs were quiet and chilling, our Ruby of course would be the only dog there that would kick up a fuss barking. Guess which red faced dog owner had to bring her for an extra walk around the place to calm her down? But I love her anyway. :)

Myself and the boyfriend went to see Trivium this Tuesday up in the Academy in Dublin, who were so so, so brilliant! As was their support act, Psykosis! The pits were brilliant, at 4 11'' at an over 18's gig, I just about survived the pits, haha. I am sore everywhere and my voice is going, but it was so worth it! We headed to Fibber's afterwards, I've never been, but knew it was the place to be after a rock/metal gig. It didn't disappoint! They played all the music I loved, like Metallica, Slipknot, System Of A Down, Rammstein, and the likes. I got dragged into singing Duality by Slipknot on the top of my lungs by friendly drunk people. I loved it here so much and I didn't want to leave. There's nowhere like Fibber's where I live, so it'll be sorely missed! 

Yesterday I went shopping in the city centre, so I will have alot more beauty blogs to come in the next few weeks, so I'm looking forward to writing those up, look out for them! 

All in all, a great start to the Summer! How are you guy's Summer going so far? Let me know below. :)
Thanks for reading,
Stay fab xo
Kim. :)